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Family Constellations
For Healthy Relationships..
HOW CAN FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS HELP YOU?
Systemic Family Constellations are highly effective in helping with all relationship issues and many mental health disorders arising from Family and Marriage issues including :
- Separation and divorce
- Parenting
- Single parent families
- Blended families
- Adoption
- Emotional abuse
- Physical and Sexual abuse
- Incest
- Depression
- Self esteem
- Anxiety
- Suicide
- General anxiety disorder and panic attack
- Dysfunctional families
- Daughter father relationship
- Daughter mother relationship
- Mother son relationship
- Father son relationship
- Relationships between siblings
All relationship problems :
- Love relationships
- Abuse, sexual abuse
- Feeling disconnected
- Inability to form love relationships or attract suitable partners into your life
- Relationship breakdown
- Feeling blocked to achieving your potential
WHAT IS FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS?
Family Constellation therapy is a philosophy that takes the view that we are each individual souls that are born into a family soul. We are each born into our family energy. The family soul or family energy is disrupted by traumatic events like war or murder or tragedies that occur in the family. In particular, exclusion of family members due to guilt or shame or any other reason is not tolerated by the family soul.
The family soul will seek to have someone in the present generation “play out” the unresolved energy in some way. In this way patterns may be passed down the generations, sometimes missing a generation, but then coming back into a later generation.
Family Constellations highlight and seek to resolve any entanglements or generational dynamic that are holding you back in terms of self esteem, relationships, success and abundance.
This process taps into entanglements, restores the order and helps the person to acknowledge “what is” and to free themselves respectfully, while allowing a healthier connection to their roots to form. In short it allows the flow of life to be restored and also the flow of love. Doing a family constellation will allow you to feel that we are all connected energetically.
Family Constellations are called Movements of the Soul by Bert Hellinger, the originator of the work and works at the level of the Personal, Family and Inter-generational soul. It also works from a visual, intellectual and emotional level to change perception and perspective.
WHAT HAPPENS IN A FAMILY CONSTELLATION?
Usually in a workshop situation you set up the people of your issue, using representatives from the workshop and placing them in different positions from each other in the room, according to a what “feels right”. (The real people involved are normally not present.) From this point onwards, you observe the process, as the representatives start to pick up the energy of the real people involved, even though they know nothing about them or your story. From here on, the facilitator guides the process and releases emotions and finds the Orders of Love that give strength and healing to you and the system. This is an intuitive and psychotherapeutic process that heals on all levels, if your issue is one that is generational in nature. We often carry unresolved past generational patterns with us in the present.
Family Constellations may take place in workshops or private sessions.
EXAMPLES/CASE STUDIES OF FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS
Case Study 1.
Difficult Parent/Child Relationships
This is the family constellation of a woman who was unable to have a good relationship with her daughter. The facilitator asked a few factual questions about the family history and then set up the constellation with representatives. The woman also had a difficult relationship with her own mother. Representatives of the woman, her daughter and her mother were set up. The feelings and physical positioning of the representatives were noted.
The woman is loving but can’t make contact with her daughter, who is angry with her. The woman is then turned to face her own mother. It is clear that she doesn’t respect or accept her mother. Some time is spent here in allowing things to be put back into their rightful place until the woman and her mother are in contact and feeling comfortable. Now the woman is turned to face her daughter. The daughter has become interested in coming to a resolution with her now. The constellation finishes with the family system feeling relaxed and comfortable.
If you have a difficult relationship with your parents, it may be difficult for you to have a good relationship with your own children.
Case Study 2.
When A Relationship Breaks Down
This is a family constellation of a divorced woman who was experiencing difficulties in her subsequent intimate relationship. A constellation was set up with representatives of the woman, her ex-husband and her current partner.
The woman’s ex-husband is feeling very sad and hurt. She can’t look at him and says that she feels anger towards him. In seeking a resolution, it’s discovered that the woman is finding it hard to accept responsibility for her part in what went wrong between them. Once an appropriate resolution is found and accepted, the couple is able to let each other go. This frees the woman to focus on her present relationship.
A relationship that has broken down needs to be resolved completely, before you successfully go into the next one. Many of us know this intellectually, but it is often difficult to do this fully for ourselves.
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Case Study 3.
An Unresolved Parent Child Relationship
This is a family constellation of a man who had a difficult and unresolved relationship with his mother. His mother died when the man was seventeen leaving him feeling bitter and angry.
A constellation of the man and his mother is set up. The man’s mother reports feeling “cut off” and unable to focus on her son. The son reports feeling sad. Gradually the mother turns from the son. She feels pulled from behind.
The man’s mother is turned around to look at her father. She experiences great emotion here, first anger, then sadness and then abandonment. Her own father had died when he was a child. She had very much missed her father. Once the situation is acknowledged and the mother is reunited with her father she is able to turn around with her own father behind her to give her strength and make a connection with her son. The constellation is over when the mother is honoured and respected by her son and she is able to wish her son a fulfilling life. The son is feeling connected to his mother.
The man may now be able to take part in a good loving relationship with a woman as he now has his mother in his heart.
THE FACILITATOR
Yildiz has been trained in Constellation work by several international trainers and also by Bert Hellinger himself. She is now a specialist in private sessions as well as a highly experienced and respected workshop facilitator of constellation work working mainly in Brisbane and Sydney in monthly seminars.
Yildiz has always had a fascination for understanding karmic cycles & is now using Family Constellations to resolve the negative patterns that bind us. She is a very experienced & insightful facilitator and a recognized Family Constellations practitioner Internationally (DGfS Germany) and conducts workshops on a regular basis in Sydney and Brisbane. She is also the most experienced facilitator of private constellation sessions in Australia.
UPCOMING FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS WORKSHOPS
All upcoming workshops, and more information about workshops and Family Constellations are on the Family Constellations site (opens in a new window)
Phone Yildiz NOW to see how she can help you, in a short, FREE phone assessment on 07 3862 2093
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